Just the other day I found myself at the shoe store buying ballet shoes for my daughters. I don’t know a woman on earth that can be at a shoe store and not “just look” for her own size. So next thing I knew, there I was, trying on shoes for myself. On the bottom of the rack and on clearance was a pair of yellow shoes. I could not believe my luck! I loved them and bought them without another thought. It wasn’t until I brought them home, did I start thinking about why I loved that bright and vibrant color so much. To me, there is nothing “mellow about yellow.” Here are a couple things I learned from the color YELLOW.
1. Yellow is bold and confident. Confidence is power. People are drawn to others who are confident in themselves. Does this mean we have to be “fake” and pretend we are confident when we are not? No! This just means celebrate the talents you have to offer this world! Hold your head up high. Be bold and secure that you are enough. It is easy to feel inadequate, especially in the “social media” world that we live in. At our finger tips we have access to the good things in everyone else’s lives. We need to remember that very few people are posting their struggles and hardships online, rather they are more often trying to make their lives look perfect. We cannot compare our challenges to someone else’s success. It is not fair to YOU!
2. Yellow is a happy color. Surround yourself with things and people that make you happy. I believe that gratitude goes hand and hand with happiness. When we are busy looking for the good and appreciating things, we have little energy left to be critical. When my boys were little, I spent five minutes a day writing down three things that I was grateful for. At first, it was really hard for me to come up with different things to be grateful for. Little by little, it became easier, and before long I could fill up half a page with little or no effort. I found that my heart was more grateful for the little things. I was quicker to recognize small blessings in my life. Many interesting things happen to us when we are grateful. Here are my favorite three things: (see below for reference)
- People with an “attitude of gratitude” are in better physical health, sleep better, and spend more time exercising.*
- People with an “attitude of gratitude” have lower levels of stress hormones in their blood.**
- People with an “attitude of gratitude” undo the cardiovascular after effects of negative emotions.***
3. Yellow is uplifting. No one has ever said (to my knowledge) “Oh great, here comes another beautiful ray of sunshine to lighten my day.” We should all splash a little color into our lives by taking time for ourselves. Spend that extra minute or two in the shower relaxing or tuck yourself into bed an hour early so you can read that chapter you have been waiting to read. Take a walk with a friend or just enjoy the peace and quiet of the day. When we color our lives with things that make us a feel better, we act and treat others better.
“Taking time for yourself gives your brain a chance to reboot, improves concentration, increases productivity, helps you discover (or rediscover) your own voice, gives you a chance to think deeply , and helps you problem solve more effectively. It also gives you a better sense of balance and self-awareness that can lead to a better understanding of yourself–what drives you, what inspires you, what excites you. This, in turn, can have a positive effect not only on the quality of your relationship with yourself, but also on the quality of your relationships with others.”****
Next time you see something bold and beautifully yellow, remember the quest to be more like that dynamic color and reflect its values in our own lives. Is it any wonder why some of the most beautiful creations of this earth are yellow?
* Emmons, R. A. & McCullough, M. E. (2003) Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well being in daily life, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 84: 377-89.
** R. McCraty, B. Barrios-Choplin, D. Rozman, M Atkinson & A. D. Watkins (1998) The impact of a new emotional self-management program on stress, emotions, heart rate variability, DHEA and cortisol. Integrative Physiological & Behavioral Science. 32 (2) 151-70.
*** C. Branigan, B. L. Fredrickson, R. A. Mancuso, & M. M. Tugade (2000) The undoing effect of positive emotions, Motivation and Emotion 24: 237-58.
****Sherrie Bourg Carter is the author of High Octane Women: How Superachievers Can Avoid Burnout(Prometheus Books, 2011).
About the Author: Camille Olson is currently working in the marketing department at the South Shore Center for Couples & Families. She received her B.S. degree from Brigham Young University in elementary education. She is married and is the mother of five children.